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To all those who hate gays – You win


I am gay and have been living with my partner for more than 42 years. We are caring, loving people to our family, friends and neighbors. 

About three months ago, my partner was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer and it’s not looking good. Honestly, I don’t know how I could live without him. He is my rock and it’s always been me and him against the world. Now I’m looking at a life alone, a life without someone by my side. I have always been the domestic partner and my partner has always been the bread winner in our relationship and it has always worked for us, but now we are in hell trying to figure out our finances, trying to get all of our ducks in a row before he dies. Why are we in hell? Because we can’t get married here in Arizona, therefore we must hire an attorney to try to figure things out. 

For example, after my partner dies, I can’t collect his work pension to help me financially survive. If we were legally married, our situation would be so much simpler and we wouldn’t be going through this legal nightmare. 

To all of you out there who do not like gay people, all those who oppose our right to marry, I just want you to know that you win. Yes, you win. People like you want to punish us for being gay and for loving each other and you’ve done a good job. For more than 42 years, you have hurt us (both mentally and psychically) with your cruelty and prejudice and hate. I can’t even begin to tell you all of the horrible things we’ve had to endure because of you and you’ve done it all in the name of God. You must be so proud of yourselves. Anyway, I just want you to know that we forgive you.


Michael M. Ely,

Oro Valley