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Such the Spot - America's moral decline

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Darcie Maranich



Every time my grandpa comes to visit, the conversation invariably leads to one particular topic: America’s moral decline. I cannot tell you how many times and in how many different ways I’ve heard his viewpoints on the subject. I have learned to recognize the cue. He’ll shake his head or roll his eyes in exasperation and then he starts in, “Back in my day...” I know to settle in for a comparison of what was acceptable in his younger years versus what passes as status quo in modern times. His memories are romanticized—a look back at yesteryear through the rosiest of lenses.

Or are they?

I was flipping through radio channels in the car the other day when I heard Ryan Seacrest tease the topic they’d be discussing on the next segment of his show: When should you start following the social media accounts of someone you’re newly dating? Intrigued, I suffered through a commercial break and at least two distasteful songs. Thankfully, I’m at a stage in my life at which dating is ancient history. I do, though, have teenage daughters and so I take a cursory interest in what the dating scene looks like now. Based on Ryan Seacrest’s, ahem, insightful comments, I’m inclined to make dating off-limits to my children until they turn thirty.

According to Mr. Seacrest and the female he discussed the topic with, it isn’t acceptable to Facebook friend or Twitter follow someone after a first date. Seacrest and his guest went on to explain that when two people “spend the night together” after the second date, it is then okay to either friend or follow, but not both. Did you catch that? Let me run it by you again for emphasis. A very popular radio talk show host publicly stated that a) it is acceptable to have sexual relations after just two dates and b) then and only then is it acceptable to make a social media connection lest you might be perceived as being too clingy.

In case you’re missing the ramifications here, I’m going to spell it out. That is: after two measly little dates, it is apparently more socially acceptable to engage in the single most intimate act two people can share than it is to click a stupid follow button on Twitter.


As the mother of three impressionable young women, not to mention one impressionable young man, I have to say that I am thoroughly disgusted by this notion. I’m not naïve; I know that casual sex is a {sad} reality. But when a modern day icon publicly implies that sex holds less value—less virtue—than a silly social media account, well, it so perfectly illustrates my grandpa’s point.

Modern times and technologies have definitely given voice to and shed light on those who exemplify a moral decline in our country. My hope—my prayer—is that those of us who have something wholesome to stand for will speak louder and shine brighter.

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Darcie Maranich