My mother-in-law (whom I will hereafter refer to as “mom”, “mother” or “mommy”) is without a doubt, the best mom I know. Partly because of the way she has accepted me into their family and the way she treats me, but mostly because of what she has done for her daughter, my wife.
My wife is deaf and has Cerebral Palsy (CP). At the time she was born, the doctors probably said to put her in a home and move on with their lives. They chose instead to take her home and do the best they could for her. Mom did everything she could to give her daughter the most normal life she could. She went to school and learned sign language so she could communicate better with her. It’s not easy to learn another language when you get older, I know. Mom helped her with physical therapy for her CP which enabled her to be able to walk and do other things fairly normally. Mom took her to the best schools for the deaf they could find. She even moved with her to other states to attend these schools, while the family stayed behind to continue working the farm.
While mom was doing everything she could for her daughter with special needs, she also managed to raise two other girls (they were older) to be wonderful people too. How she was able to balance all of that is beyond me.
This family did not just survive, they lived very full lives. They were all very involved in school, sports, 4H, cheerleading, camping and even politics while also helping others too. To this day, they are all very, very close.
Probably the hardest thing mom had to do, was to let her daughter go. She helped her to move to another state to complete her education and maybe more importantly, to be among many other deaf (and hearing) people on her own. I don’t think many mothers could have done that after being so protective for so many years. I do know it wasn’t easy for mom to let her go.
But mom knew it was the best thing regardless of what she wanted personally. It takes a whole lot of love to let someone go.
Mom managed to raise her special daughter to be a true angel on earth.
I have been married to her now for 15 years and it just gets better every year.
I love mom for the person she is and for what she did for her daughter.
I don’t think anyone could have done a better job, as a mom.